“Don’t talk about yourself; it will be done when you leave.” [Wilson Mizner]

Humility is “a quality of being courteously respectful of others. It is the opposite of aggressiveness, arrogance, boastfulness, and vanity” and is “the quality that lets us go more than halfway to meet the needs and demands of others.”

Humility is a major theme of Christianity, but it doesn’t remain there.  Embracing humility is embracing modesty, discarding pretense, not believing that you’re better than anyone else.  After all, “it is well to remember that the entire population of the universe, with one trifling exception, is composed of others.” (Andrew J Holmes)

Bruna Martinuzzi wants us to know that even though “we often confuse humility with timidity,” the two are not the same.  “Humility is not clothing ourselves in an attitude of self-abasement or self-denigration. Humility is all about maintaining our pride about who we are, about our achievements, about our worth – but without arrogance – it is the antithesis of hubris.”  Instead, humility reflects a quiet confidence.  What you do should speak so loudly that people cannot hear what you say, anyway.  Others should discover the layers of your talents without your help.  In other words, humility doesn’t require that you think less of yourself; only that you think of yourself less.

Nietzsche says “talking about oneself can also be a means to conceal onself.”  Who you are should speak loudly enough that you would not need to help it along.  Remember Martinuzzi’s point that humility “improves relationships across all levels, it reduces anxiety, it encourages more openness and paradoxically, it enhances one’s self-confidence. It opens a window to a higher self.”

 

You shouldn’t gloat about anything you’ve done; you ought to keep going and find something better to do.
David Packard

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